It is my pleasure to be able to write a mini review on this book written by Mr. Tony Robbins (download it for free here, legally), which has gotten praise from Dr. Stephen Covey, writer of ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People‘ and is regarded as one of the best books about productivity and self help. So I won’t go into praising it myself. I will simply discuss about the key things that I learned from the book.
Table Of Contents
- 1 We Should Prioritize Our Values
- 2 We Should Be Conscious of What We Link Pain And Pleasure With
- 3 We Should Always Give Most Amount of Time to The Solution, Not The Problem
- 4 Motion Creates Emotion
- 5 Choose to Be Cheerful
- 6 Identify Emotional Triggers
- 7 Become Consistent
- 8 Avoid the ‘Popeye Principle’
We Should Prioritize Our Values
We all have desire for certain emotions more than others. For example, some people prefer the feeling of security over adventure and for some it might be the opposite. Tony Robbins makes a clear point about being certain about which values are more important to us. Synonymous with the ‘Know Thyself’ aphorism, it has helped me a lot once I found out my own inner values and started ranking them. This blog came to be because I put ‘Writing’ over ‘Being Rich’.
We Should Be Conscious of What We Link Pain And Pleasure With
According to psychological research, we do more to avoid pain than we do to gain pleasure. And often as a child we link events with pain randomly. Imagine an alcoholic who wants to stop drinking. It will be hard if associates drinking with fun times, hanging out with friends, dancing, etc. But if he links drinking with his rash behavior, failing to be discipline or simply to the mad hangovers he has, he will be more likely to quit it.
We Should Always Give Most Amount of Time to The Solution, Not The Problem
Tony Robbins argues that, when we focus too much on the problem we stop seeing how we can solve it. About allocation of time, he suggested “100 percent on solutions, no time on problems!” Although sometimes the problem is so big that we need to dissect it into smaller parts, but as a general rule of thumb thinking more about solving and less about the problem helps out a lot.
Motion Creates Emotion
I sometimes suffer from depression. After reading these three words, my life changed because whenever I feel depression looming around me, I immediately immerse myself into an action. I would advice you to try it. Yes, I said ‘advice’ and not ‘suggest’.
Choose to Be Cheerful
Being cheerful is a choice. Quoting straight from the book here:
Although it might sound a little fake, but actively loving life and everything around you can do wonders for your mental health and of the people around you.
Identify Emotional Triggers
What makes you sad? What makes you angry? What makes you happy? – You can keep on creating such questions and answer them. And if you do, you will see that certain events are like the magic lamp of Aladdin: as soon as you rub them the emotions appear. If you identify them and actively practice to reach the positive ends of your emotions, you will be a lot more productive and happy in your life.
People value consistency a lot. Tony Robbins stresses this point very strongly in the book, and stressing it in my life has only got me accolades so far.
Avoid the ‘Popeye Principle’
A man who follows the ‘Popeye Principle’ keeps saying, “I am what I am and that’s all that I am”. Such people no longer believe that they can change and suffer in the end. Don’t become one.